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What Do I Say?
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What Do I Say?
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Who wrote these messages?
People wrote every message here. This is not an AI tool. We kept the words short and simple, so they are easy to read and easy to change.
There is no perfect message. A kind, simple message sent today is better than a perfect one you never send.
Our advice is based on guidance from these groups. The wording is our own:
- NIMH: 5 action steps to help someone having thoughts of suicide (opens in a new tab)
- Dazzi and colleagues (2014): does asking about suicide cause suicidal thoughts? (opens in a new tab)
- 988 Lifeline: help someone else (opens in a new tab)
- AFSP: 10 ways to support someone who lost someone to suicide (opens in a new tab)
- Samaritans (US): supporting suicide loss survivors (opens in a new tab)
- American Cancer Society: when someone you know has cancer (opens in a new tab)
- Miscarriage UK: supporting someone through miscarriage (opens in a new tab)
- American Pregnancy Association: what to say after a miscarriage (opens in a new tab)
This page gives general support, not medical advice. Last checked 11 October 2026.